What Would You Do?
I've really been pondering what to do here. . .As you all know from prior posts my friend "Farmer" has a daycare out of her home. . .Over the last few months I have really pulled away from doing things with her. . .Not because she isn't fun, but because she is always wanting me to give up my time to help her. . .(meaning leave my job - give up my $ - and go out and watch her daycare kids so she can go do something else). . .
Now, some of this was so that she could go with her dad to the doctor. . .I understand, trust me and I don't mind helping out a friend. . .But, does it make sense for me to give up my hourly wage (which is probably what she makes for one kid per day) for absolutely nothing? I would NEVER ask a friend to leave their job to help me out for nothing. . .She makes the money. . .Like I said, I don't mind helping out - I've done it. . .But, she has gotten to the point she is making a habit of it. . .In an emergency situation I WOULD DO IT WITHOUT MY COMPLAINTS, but if it can be planned she needs to TAKE THE DAY OFF like she is wanting me to do. . .don't ya think?
What would you do?
posted by Shauna @ 4:51 AM
15 Comments:
Leave your job?
Uh...no...
Steve~
I'm with Steve. (your pretty cute by the way. ha!)
Here is what I would do. I try to avoid any and all conflict because I'm a sissy. So the next time I would tell her that you can't leave your job you need the MONEY.
If she were to pay you for it would it be okay? Is it okay that you leave your job?
I had a friend once who wanted me to skip work and help her paint her living room. My husband and I work together. So if we don't work we have no $$. I had to say no too.
Yeah, if she asks again, just tell her you can't. If she's a true friend, she'll understand. And if she's a true friend, she wouldn't be taking advantage of you either.
Thanks Steve - Birddog is rather mad at me and the whole situation. . .
Vicki - Thanks - I've tried to drop VERY SUBTLE hints about this stuff to her and her hubby but neither one of them seem to get it. . .I can't believe I let myself get into it this deep. . .She knows Birddog gets mad and he's told her she needs to get a different job. . .LOL :)
The only way that it would be okay if she paid me is to pay me what I make to make it worthwhile - wouldn't you think? And, she doesn't make that kind of money babysitting. . .
Guess I'm going to have to just step up and tell her outright "NO" from now on. . .After all - she texted me earlier and said it wasn't going to be until 4 this afternoon and I texted her back and told her that I had to pick up Scoop from school. . .She managed to do something different then. . .
Silly - I would think that she would want to keep the friends that she has. . .but, there are more and more people that avoid doing anymore volunteering, etc. for her because she does everyone like this. . .
She's a good person, but JUST DOESN'T THINK ABOUT WHAT OR HOW HER ACTIONS ARE EFFECTING OTHERS! ! I feel sorry for her, but then again I don't because it doesn't take a glass-eye in a ducks A$$ to figure it out! ! !
I think she needs a reality check.
Does she always have that much gall?
I'd give her the address of a Temp agency and remind her that as it is a commercial venture, anyone working there must be certified.
Pamela - Yes, she does. . .
Willowtree - Good idea! ! ! BB and I have both told her that we are not certified and it doesn't seem to bother her. . .
She JUST WON'T GET THE HINT! ! !
I was thinking this was a tough situation but Willowtree brought up a very important point. If you're not certified, wouldn't you get in trouble as well?? I think so!! She could face huge fines not to mention risk losing her business. I wouldn't risk my butt...if she doesn't get the hint, you'll have to let her know flat out, 1. you have a job because you need the money 2. not being certified is a risk you won't take 3. suggest a temp agency like willow said.
UM - I can see for a real emergency, but she has stepped over the line.
PLUS -
If I was a parent having my child at a daycare and then came to pick up my child and there was a different sitter who I had NEVER met OR didn't know - I'd be pretty pissed off. She should be careful or she may lose her reputation AND her business!!!!
Say no.
Claudia - Yes, BB and I were talking about the risk. We both have told her that we aren't certified and that we shouldn't be out there and have also realized that if something goes wrong we could be held responsible.
I'm done! No more!
Karmyn - Farmer really has stepped over the line and I don't think she is even thinking about it. I have discovered, especially this past year, just how self-centered of a person she is. . .It's sad.
She thinks it's all okay because I've met all the parents (BB too). I hate to say this, but Birddog is right - she needs a different job.
Gawilli - I'M GOING TO FROM NOW ON!
Everything has really already been said here and you have already decided not to do it anymore. Proud of you for that.
But you know, she is a big FARMER now. Sorry, just had to say it.
I agree with everyone else....just say no!!
I am appauled that someone would ask/expect this of you. Kudos for "just saying no".
Marnie
LOL Julie! ! ! How many times do you drive by Banner Rd. and bust up laughing????? LOL
Thanks Songbird. . .
Marnie - it does amaze me too. . .I've decided that she has a lot of nerve. . .I honestly don't know how she can ask this things of her "friends" and expect to keep them. . .
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